Saturday, May 9, 2009

Crone Speak

I went to a wedding last night and kept hearing people say "she looks beautiful". They were, of course, referring to the bridal party and they did indeed look beautiful...but I woke this this morning and wondered why they didn't say "she is beautiful" or "they are beautiful". What is it about people that makes us view them from a distance? Were they just commenting on the gowns? No, they were commenting on the overall beauty of each person; the hair, the makeup, the gown, the smile, the eyes and the inner beauty that comes from joy and happiness at being part of such a lovely occasion.

What I mean is this...when we view art, we rarely say it looks beautiful. That would be distant; almost like a teacher grading an assignment. We would more likely say it is beautiful because we let it roll over our souls and enter our spirits and really feel the art and let it become a part of us. It moves us to say "wow, that is beautiful". How do you feel when you see a gorgeous sunset...one filled with 3 shades of lavender, 2 shades of pink and that brilliant blazing orange? Would you say that looks beautiful or it is beautiful? Personally, I would shout "that is so freaking beautiful!" and nature's mother would be pleased. :-)

So take a few extra moments next time you see someone that touches your soul in that way. Instead of saying "gee, you look beautiful" turn it around and say what you really mean; "gee, you ARE beautiful". Imagine the difference one single word would make in their lives. I think they would be pleased. :-)

Namaste, Carol

12 comments:

julie mitchell said...

Not to long ago I was in the produce section of a big, big market...the whole place is impersonal and people don't really look at each other..isn't it funny how we manage to avoid eye contact...But in produce people tend to slow down, touch, smell, squeeze, and weigh..I spotted a woman...white hair, many, many wrinkles, tanned, but not manicured, beautiful blue intelligent eys, the kind of face I want someday, one that shows I lived with emotion......I risked approaching her..and said, "you are soooo beautiful"...it took her a moment to react to what I was saying...and then a she got it..a look of surprise and her hand went up to her cheek and then with the gentlest smile she said, "Thank you dear, I haven't heard that in a very long time."

Carol Stocker said...

Yes, exactly! Julie what an amazing thing you did...YOU are amazing! She touched you in a profound way and then you reached out and touched her. AWESOME! Thanks for sharing such a beautiful and well-written account. Hugs, Carol

julie mitchell said...

Thank you Carol....I often look at the elders when I'm shopping. You can tell so much about them by what is in the cart...I often think they must feel invisible...and she did touch me...I don't want to be invisible when, and if, I'm graced with a long life....I want to be seen and feel as though I'm still relevant...I want to be part of a tribe.. We humans are a funny lot, how we ignore each other even when we have so many opportunities to interact...

Carol Stocker said...

Well said darling....I'm going to keep myself aware of opportunities this week to interact with people too. Sometimes I feel invisible and would much rather be part of a tribe as well. hugs, Carol

Anonymous said...

Carol,

I love your comment 'We ... say it is beautiful because we let it roll over our souls and enter our spirits and really feel the art and let it become a part of us.'

Would you mind if I used that as a quote on a journal page? I will credit you with the quote.

Chris

christine said...

Awwww - nicely said, Carol. You are right. And you ARE beautiful, m'dear....

Robin said...

This post IS beautiful.

Carol Stocker said...

Thank you Christine & Robin! There is so much wisdom around us..I know each of you have stories to share too. Hugs, Carol

Tamara C said...

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! And so is your soul! A very touching post that speaks so much truth! Thank you! :)

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Very true, indeed! Just to make it clear “We are all beautiful!”

Tammy said...

You HAVE so much to share and teach. Love your blog and welcome to BlissfullyArtJournaling.